I have this thing where I like looking at sexual women, but I don't like looking at women who are made to be sexy I guess? It's like a conflict between wow she's hot and damn, that's totally sexist/objectifying. Is that a normal thing?
Hey anon! YES that is totally normal. I don’t know what your gender is, but speaking as a queer woman, it’s always an incredible conflict between finding women attractive, but also feeling annoyed at how they are being framed in a very misogynistic, objectifying way.
Sexuality portrayed in the media can be kind of scary! Look at adverts and realise how often subservience or the pain of women is eroticized. Our view of what is ‘sexy’ is often heavily shaped by an oppressive male gaze, and I think it’s totally normal to feel more comfortable exploring your sexuality and what gets you hot outside that lens, as much as you can manage.
Interesting.
This is actually really interesting.
I like some of the points this video makes, but I think it’s a little dismissive of how queer women may feel about it. It’s actually pretty alienating to be forced to assume the straight male gaze when looking at women, because queer women are co-opted out of their own sexuality by the male gaze you feel very intensely in relationships (how many queer ladies have had a guy ask them to make out with their girlfriend in front of them?)
As well as that, we are still women? Even if we may feel some titillation from a heavily heteronormified image of a woman, that doesn’t mean we also don’t feel the oppressive gaze on the woman too. Straight male sexuality ≠ queer female gaze, imho.
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I’m looking at you
bro
In the “Cool story babe, now make me a sandwich” t-shirt
The commonly uses
“I raped you faggot”
when playing
Video games
To dehumanize
Your straight friends
The white kid who greets his buddies with the n-word
Who’s OkCupid dating profile describes him as a “nice guy”
He’s just sick of getting friend-zoned
Because being just friends with a woman
Is so terrible
Nevermind the fact that he answers yes to the following:
Are women obligated to shave their legs?
Are racist jokes funny?
When a woman is raped, is it sometimes her fault?
I’m looking at you
guy in every women’s studies class ever
who derails dialogue
About a third of the world’s population of women
Who will be raped
In their life times
By asserting
“the wage gap isn’t real”
the guy who starts “PimpWalk” in response
to slutwalk
a demonstration aimed at ending victim blaming
of rape victims
the guy with the “no fat chicks” bumpersticker on his F150
whos confused why
he cant get pussy
to the guy who calls anal rape
“surprise buttsex”
to the one who uses “feminazi”
as a frequent part
of his vernacular
to every guy who has ever thought that a facebook status
about domestic violence
was a good opportunity to practice playing the
devils advocate
to every guy
boy
man
who has ever dismissed feminism
because it didn’t involve him
to every man who has ever raped a woman
to every man who has ever beaten one
isolated one
belittled one
dehumanized one
to every guy
who thinks he’s not like those ones
because
its just a joke
to every guy who is confused why feminists hate him
to every guy
its because
you’re part of a problem
a culture
that won’t stop choking us
but tells us
to just breath
wrote some spoken word for my women’s studies final tomorrow. what do you guys think? (via fat-feminist)
Woah this got like 3 thousands notes thanks guys. Now I just have to perform it in an hour…
(via fat-feminist)
i could liken you to a werewolf the way you left me for dead
but i admit that i provided a full moon
